Sometimes marriage sucks.
Yup...you read that correctly, sometimes marriage sucks..
Michael and I are coming up on our seventh month of marriage. Shortly after our first month, we made a huge life decision, leaving some family, and turning our life in a completely different direction than we had ever planned. Before I continue, let me add that with all the stress our decision has made for us, it’s not one that we regret. We are incredibly grateful to be where we are, and fully believe this is where God has intended for us to be. With that being said, it has not been easy. It has been trying in all directions of our life. I am not one to ever pretend my relationship/marriage is perfect. We are human beings, both with different personalities and thought processes. Our relationship has never been perfect or easy. Michael and I started out dating in high school, at 16 years old and have been together nearly 10 years. No one could realistically expect that to be a beautiful walk in the park everyday, and let me tell you it’s not. We have had a break-up, or two. We have moved, A LOT. We have now lived in three different states together. We have been through family drama, fights, and heartbreaking moments. Nonetheless we ALWAYS come back together, work through our problems, and make the conscious choice to choose the other person and love them with all we've got, everyday, no matter what. Michael proposed to me when we were 19 years old and we got married this past May at 23 years old. While we were sure on our choice to marry each other, the months leading up to our big day were filled with some fear. We both come from divorced families and we both have very different outcomes and ways of life due to that. Although no one goes into a marriage expecting the worst to happen, it sadly often does. Michael and I fully believe that there isn't one person in the entire world that is meant for us. We believe that our soulmate is who we choose it to be and not one single person we have to find and hope we were right. We chose each other as our soulmate and continue to make the choice daily. We knew we were going into this marriage with overflowing love for one another but making sure that never went away became a scary thought. After our wedding, we made a big decision, moved states, left family and jobs and security for a whole new adventure. In the past seven months we have learned a whole new way of life and state, reunited with a lot of family, Michael and my father are in business together and working towards growing that more, and many personal situations we have gone through/going through and none of it has broken us down. We are excited for the future, the good and bad and ugly times because we have made the promise to each other through thick and thin to come through it together. The point is, sometimes marriage sucks. Some days it's fighting and not seeing eye to eye, some days hunger and/or exhaustion gets the best of us. Some days we are sitting on opposite ends of the couch and other days we can't seem to get enough of each other. It's normal, it's life and marriage and it's the vows we chose to make. To anyone reading this that may be in an unhealthy, dangerous, marriage/relationship I am not promoting to stay or live in fear/misery. Unfortunately not all situations are able to be worked through and that's okay. But, it is normal and OKAY to struggle, to argue and get mad. Take time for your partner, pray for them and love them through their flaws. My marriage is not always pretty, but it is one that will last because at the end of every day good or bad we choose to come back together, talk through our struggles, and make sure the other person knows how loved and appreciated they are. We have been THROUGH it and I just can't wait to keep going through it with him. I have focused on constantly becoming a better wife, praying for my husband, and working with him instead of against him. He is my safe haven, my comfort, my best friend and chosen soulmate.
xoxo,
Jess
Michael and I are coming up on our seventh month of marriage. Shortly after our first month, we made a huge life decision, leaving some family, and turning our life in a completely different direction than we had ever planned. Before I continue, let me add that with all the stress our decision has made for us, it’s not one that we regret. We are incredibly grateful to be where we are, and fully believe this is where God has intended for us to be. With that being said, it has not been easy. It has been trying in all directions of our life. I am not one to ever pretend my relationship/marriage is perfect. We are human beings, both with different personalities and thought processes. Our relationship has never been perfect or easy. Michael and I started out dating in high school, at 16 years old and have been together nearly 10 years. No one could realistically expect that to be a beautiful walk in the park everyday, and let me tell you it’s not. We have had a break-up, or two. We have moved, A LOT. We have now lived in three different states together. We have been through family drama, fights, and heartbreaking moments. Nonetheless we ALWAYS come back together, work through our problems, and make the conscious choice to choose the other person and love them with all we've got, everyday, no matter what. Michael proposed to me when we were 19 years old and we got married this past May at 23 years old. While we were sure on our choice to marry each other, the months leading up to our big day were filled with some fear. We both come from divorced families and we both have very different outcomes and ways of life due to that. Although no one goes into a marriage expecting the worst to happen, it sadly often does. Michael and I fully believe that there isn't one person in the entire world that is meant for us. We believe that our soulmate is who we choose it to be and not one single person we have to find and hope we were right. We chose each other as our soulmate and continue to make the choice daily. We knew we were going into this marriage with overflowing love for one another but making sure that never went away became a scary thought. After our wedding, we made a big decision, moved states, left family and jobs and security for a whole new adventure. In the past seven months we have learned a whole new way of life and state, reunited with a lot of family, Michael and my father are in business together and working towards growing that more, and many personal situations we have gone through/going through and none of it has broken us down. We are excited for the future, the good and bad and ugly times because we have made the promise to each other through thick and thin to come through it together. The point is, sometimes marriage sucks. Some days it's fighting and not seeing eye to eye, some days hunger and/or exhaustion gets the best of us. Some days we are sitting on opposite ends of the couch and other days we can't seem to get enough of each other. It's normal, it's life and marriage and it's the vows we chose to make. To anyone reading this that may be in an unhealthy, dangerous, marriage/relationship I am not promoting to stay or live in fear/misery. Unfortunately not all situations are able to be worked through and that's okay. But, it is normal and OKAY to struggle, to argue and get mad. Take time for your partner, pray for them and love them through their flaws. My marriage is not always pretty, but it is one that will last because at the end of every day good or bad we choose to come back together, talk through our struggles, and make sure the other person knows how loved and appreciated they are. We have been THROUGH it and I just can't wait to keep going through it with him. I have focused on constantly becoming a better wife, praying for my husband, and working with him instead of against him. He is my safe haven, my comfort, my best friend and chosen soulmate.
xoxo,
Jess
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